Intentional Encourager



When God appears to Solomon one night and tells him that he can have anything that he wants, it is so surprising that Solomon asks for wisdom. He could have asked for health, wealth, women, or prestige, but he didn’t.

What is even more amazing is that he was only twenty -years old when this happened. I believe he turned out so well because of his father, King David, who was the most respected man in Israel. King David was imperfect and made personal mistakes, but he obviously did something right since Solomon turned out so nicely.

David believed in his son. He was also an intentional encourager.

A mom who is an intentional encourager is honest with her kids. She tells them what they need to hear, even when it is not what they want to hear. She does not overlook their immaturity, mistakes, and mishaps; but when she brings up these points, there is not a general air of disapproval and low expectation. She chooses rather to temper her honesty with the grace of edification and encouragement. She goes the great lengths to protect her children’s spirits by making sure the overarching tone of their relationship is one of approval. She does not try to force her children to be like someone else—especially other siblings or her friend’s kids. She rather seeks to focus on their unique gifts, talents, and skills God is perfecting in that child.

She knows God has purposes “prepared” for her children to “walk in” (Ephesians 2:10), and He has consecrated each child by setting them apart to accomplish those God-given purposes.

And so she fights not to become discouraged during those periods of immaturity and inexperience in her kids. Even when she sees their failures, she continues to apply appropriate guidance and correction to get her children back on track.

She is an intentional encourager—who expresses love to her children by not allowing them to settle for immaturity or succumb to mediocrity. She inspires excellence not be demanding they meet arbitrary standards of others but they rise to the achievable challenge of God given purpose and potential. She speaks highly of her children to others and is not bashful about seeking prayerful help.

Like David, she believes in her children.

And who knows? This kind of intentional encouragement might cause a twenty-year old to turn his face toward heaven and say, “Lord, give me wisdom.” When they do, you can believe that God will grant them what they ask and more.


About JulieJK

After Julie had her first child in 2004, she felt God was calling her into ministry to be a Children's Minister. She feels blessed to be part of such a supportive church community that not only financially supported her education as a seminary student at Moody Theological Seminary, but has also provided endless discipleship, counseling, and encouragement. Julie has been married for eleven years and has two beautiful children. She considers both children a gift from God and acknowledges that parenting takes a lot of prayer and wisdom. When she is not sweating out pages for her book, she enjoys spending time with friends, reading a good book, and drinking lots of coffee.

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