Every morning, I drop the kids off at school and then head over to Starbucks for my latte. I go there so often that my husband jokes, he is ready to buy stock in the company. On this particular morning, the barista decided to ask me questions like what I did for a living, if I was married, and what I did to celebrate my ten-year anniversary. When I remarked that my husband and I could not go away to celebrate our anniversary because of our children, she gasped loudly and then told me how she went to Europe last year and just came back from Africa last week. Though she has been married for twelve years, she never wants to have children because they “get in the way of life” and probably won’t be much fun when they become teenagers.
I took a sip of my latte and left the restaurant. I felt deflated and wondered about my own life.
There are many women who have the same mindset as the woman from Starbucks. To these individuals, children are not viewed as important since they limit a person’s ability to go out and have a good time.
Motherhood is a calling that many women are blessed with from God. Through children, mothers can teach, love, defend, and lay down their lives for another human being. Isn’t this exactly what the gospel teaches Christians to do?
To lie down one’s life, does not mean that a person’s dreams need to die with it, or life holds no future during the mommy years. Freedom may be put on hold for a bit because the baby needs to nap or eat, but these life stages are only temporary and are all part of high calling of motherhood.
The Bible clearly states how children are valuable to Jesus. He loved them and moms are commanded to do the same by bringing them up in the Lord. In Motherhood Is a Calling (And Where Your Children Rank), Rachel Jankovic offers the following encouragement to moms:
Motherhood is not a hobby, it is a calling. You do not collect children because you find them cuter than stamps. It is not something to do if you can squeeze the time in. It is what God gave you time for.
In contrast to what culture says is important, Jankovic writes,
But a Christian should have a different paradigm. We should run to to the cross. To death. So lay down your hopes. Lay down your future. Lay down your petty annoyances. Lay down your desire to be recognized. Lay down your fussiness at your children. Lay down your perfectly clean house. Lay down your grievances about the life you are living. Lay down the imaginary life you could have had by yourself. Let it go.
Motherhood is hard. It’s sacrifice. There are many days when I have to cry out to God for help. He gives me enough strength to make it through each day.
Though motherhood feels like a job, it is a calling. It is the highest calling a mother will ever have.